What does it take to have a mindset to win

It is often the case we think that folks are born lucky or having a champion mindset. 

In my opinion however even though genetics may have a small role to play, learning how to win is only a mind set.

There exists a saying that you can’t stop a loser from losing and you can’t stop a winner from winning. I might say it is actually accurate. 

There are many folks that I have delivered online coaching to who will listen, make notes, make inquiries, participate in debates yet as a result of quitting mindset, they fail to act upon any of the information which was delivered to them.

This may not be at all unusual. If it were, there would not be a profession for keynote speakers. Repeatedly people return to the same conventions and seminars to get somebody make them feel much better when winning and succeeding has little to do with feeling good.

The individual that wants to feel good, the one that has a champion mindset, will do so despite the pain, discomfort and feelings on the way. Visiting the gym is a prime example for lots of people. If we were honest we would admit that we don’t like going to the gym. I know I personally dislike running. What I do like is the effects of running. The fact that I drop some weight, feel healthier and can run faster all lead me to want to continue running.

Life is no different and business is no different. We wish to succeed however in many instances we don’t desire to take the good with the bad.

I would absolutely advise that the bad is what makes the good – “good”. Flowers don’t grow in the desert where the sun shines but the rain never comes. We need the good days to provide contrast for the bad.

So what it take in my mind to win, is to have a commitment to a system. We need to remove the notion that success happens overnight, it does not. The most important step in success may in fact be the last one. The one when we have already climbed several false summits believing the next one is the real one. The step we take to speak to one more investor after several refusals. The one more time we get up to run again and rounding a corner to see the finish line. These are the steps that define success from failure. 

Today there is a proliferation of protectionism with our children. There is a strong desire to protect them from losing. The truth is if we never have the option to lose, we never experience the joy of succeeding. 

It is a cruel juxtaposition that we are in. The pain of knowing we might lose if we try compared to the relative comfort we have of never trying.

I think if we polled people who were on their final few weeks of life and asked what they would have wished more in their lives, it would have been to accomplish more, to try harder, to have lived more courageously. I don’t believe you would find a person with an adventurous spirit saying they wished they had spent more time in their LayZ Boy recliner watching TV.

If you want to develop a winning mindset, trying yourself not to quit.

Motivational Speaking The Skill of Being A Successful Speaker

I normally wondered exactly what it could well be like to be a keynote speaker or entertainer.

I have heard it declared the two biggest fears to have are talking looking at a substantial audience and falling from a great height. With that in mind, then standing at the front of a stage speaking to a large audience probably makes this career one of the more scary.

All of us have memories of a childhood where sooner or later in time we were put on the spot to deliver a message or speech while watching class. I am sure we all understand that sudden dryness in the mouth, cold beads of sweat on our foreheads and a sudden rapid forgetfulness.

How do you overcome these negative features of speaking. For anyone who is a trainer, or a motivational speaker, then you have probably learned to defeat these situations already.   then how do you go about recovering from a point where everything seems to have gone south.

The vital thing I advise people to do is to talk to lots of successful speakers and ask them what their biggest fear is or was and how did they overcome it. 

Keeps notes of what you learn and after that study the things which scare you and look through your resource of information to figure out how to solve the problem.

Many people actually enjoy that slightly nervous feeling before walking out on stage and others simply delight in the power from a good audience. Some people are very calm and collected while some appear a little less comfortable in the spotlight.

Like many careers there is an ingredient of excitement that you can find addictive. Even a chef in a busy kitchen does not always know how the evening is going to turn out and lives on adrenaline at some point during a busy evening. The same can be said to be true about a speaker.

  to understand and assist in reducing your fears is that everybody has come to see you. They did not come to see you attempting to be somebody else, simply you. If you are passionate about your topic then frankly you could probably improvise a speech on the spot and entertain a room full of people.

Often times, we are nervous about how will be received because we put unrealistic expectations on ourselves. In reality, we can all benefit from a dose of positive mental attitude which is probably one of the most common talks from speakers. 

There are many techniques that one can use to overcome fear. The most important is to focus on the goal. Keep that closing statement in your mind and remind yourself of what you need to finish. 

Sometimes the biggest thing we fear is fear itself. Our mind takes a simple and realistic fear and builds a mountain out of a molehill. Breaking down the fear in to component parts is a reasonable way to approach the problem. 

Fear is very much a mental game. The former SAS soldier Andy McNabb talks of his capture in Iran and subsequent torture saying that it was simply like a board game and he was not going to let his opponent win. IN his mind he developed the mental toughness and fortitude to not give in to his opponent. He knew they would not kill him but they might break his bones. Those, in time would heal and so Andy knew he would have to face suffering but never defeat. 

For us as speakers, we will never have to fear that kind of pressure. The worst case scenario is that we deliver a keynote that is not well received. We may have some damage limitation to do or a reduced fee, but we will never have broken bones or be locked in a horrible jail cell.

Another important area to focus on is getting started. Too many people make themselves uncomfortable by thinking about what could go wrong, yet, when you start you are working in your area of strength. You are a speaker, revel in the opportunity and let people see how good you are. The feedback from an audience can be incredible to your conviction so give them the opportunity to learn from you.

The third area is that you would be greedy to not share your information. Your goal as a speaker is to inspire people or to help them learn. Because of this, your fears are not justified. They could be perceived to be self centred and greedy. Take your eyes off yourself for a moment and think of the people in the audience who’s lives might change because you overcame your fears and got the job done.

Finally – it is important to remember that the more keynotes you do the better you become. Canada Speakers like Hugh Culver and Linda Edgecombe have been at the top of their game for many years. That is because they are well practised. They have done a lot of talks and presentations and have benefitted from the fact that they became very comfortable in the role. 

Whatever your fear, you can take comfort from the fact that you will become more practised, more confident and you will be recognized at some point for your expert delivery.